I admit it. I was curious.
After a couple of years in a college community, I wondered what made certain members stand out as influencers. What made other students and alumni look to them as people who held sway? Who were those peer influencers and what did they do that made them who they were in relation to their peers?
Basically, whose opinions held sway, why, and how could that be applied to influencing people in general?
Bring on the most wonderful of tools for gathering info, legitimate stalking, and fun times: the survey. Decide to make it into an…
There’s something about absorbing a cool story that makes me want to be like the main characters. I’m sure you’ve felt that way too. (I know you throw a couple of punches after a superhero movie when no one’s looking.)
Reading New York Times bestselling Keeper of the Lost Cities series by Shannon Messenger is no exception. The main characters are elves with various special abilities. Three of the main characters have telepathy or empathy, abilities I’d love to emulate. Telepathy is all about mind reading and thought transmission while empathy is about feeling what others are feeling. Literally.
If your brain is anything like mine, it likes doing brain things — as in, thinking. And if your brain is anything further like mine, it likes doing its brain things in excess — as in, overthinking.
Overthinking is when you put an excessive amount of mental effort, analysis, and thinking into something, be it the question of what to eat for lunch or whom to marry. While excessiveness is difficult to define as it depends on the person and situation, you’re likely overthinking if your thoughts are circular, you can’t stop pondering the same thing, and you feel anxious…
It is a truth universally acknowledged that a writer in possession of a good deal of required writing must be enslaved to writer’s block. At least it feels like that some days. You sit at your computer, facing a white page that may or may not have a bunch of squiggly black lines on it, and you. simply. don’t. know. what. to. say. next.
I’ve been a professional writer for over eight years and have additional, overly extensive writing experience from 16 years of school. …
It started with a dying battery.
My phone was aging and the battery wasn’t what it used to be. Being the “use it ‘till it dies” kind of person that I am, I didn’t do anything about it.
But then it died. While I was in middle of nowhere. And my phone refused to revive itself.
Fast forward to the Apple store where I shoved aside my fear of entrusting my very life (or so it seemed) to a technician of unknown character as well as of going for a day without the little device that held my…
Vulnerability is an odd thing.
It feels like weakness but looks like bravery. It’s the only way to push relationships deeper, but it might also lead them to die an inglorious death. It’s scary and daunting and necessary.
It’s also highly delicate. Vulnerability requires a fine balance somewhere between being too closed and sharing too much. Too closed and you risk never getting close to people and missing out on receiving empathy and support. Too open and you risk oversharing, overburdening others, or coming across as needy, manipulative, or attention seeking.
This balance becomes yet more complex when considered from…
1. a reason for doing something, especially one that is hidden or not obvious.
As per Lexico by Oxford
Everything you do, everything you say, everything you want is backed by one or multiple motives.
Obvious, right? Of course you have reasons. Why else would you be doing/saying/wanting that? But the reasons themselves might not be obvious at all.
Motives are, by definition, not the obvious reasons for something. They’re the deeply layered, complex, maybe-even-not-entirely-known-to-you reasons for something.
They’re the true whys governing your whats and hows. They are subtly driving your choices, both major and minor…